Continuation of my last blog post. Enjoy!
4. The universal potholder phase
Seriously, this works great as metaphor for every field and activity.
If you start out new at crocheting, you make potholders. Even if you
aim for the stars, what you have as skill and knowledge results in
potholders. And the first potholders might be quite uneven.
Many people give up during the first potholders.
Why is that so? Their beliefs get in their way.
Most people hate losing and failing at things so much
that not excelling at something immediately is a death
sentence for ever trying this activity again.
I’m not blaming them. Beliefs do not come from thin air.
In school you are outright punished for making mistakes.
Outside of school you are ridiculed for making mistakes,
too. You want to fit in, not being laughed at for doing “stupid”
What I found out for myself is that the road to success
leads through many many stupid mistakes and failures.
You only know what works for you when you have a first hand understanding what doesn’t work for you. But you have to be vigilant
about what you are doing and ready to learn from your mistakes. Otherwise you are bound to repeat the same circle of failure again and again.
But I’m aware of the contradiction that if you listen to my
advice you do not listen to my advice.
Yes, you try it for yourself.
5. Do not overstay your welcome in potholder phase
The time will come when you feel comfortable with potholders.
Dread that time, for real, as you might get stagnant in your
personal comfort zone.
Ideally, you stay in a constant state of being uncomfortable
while working – every project has a new problem to solve,
new uncertainties, new wiggle room to fail or succeed by experimenting.
Of course the risk is real to overwhelm yourself, but you’ll get
better by finding your personal balance of how much to push…
by doing many projects from start to finish one after another.
6. Find purpose in the process, not beforehand
Honestly…who embarks on a journey to create potholders?
One day you probably have more potholders than you need or
can gift to people. That’s terrible. That’s a waste of your time,
so you better do not start.
But what if on the way, unplanned, you make a mistake here and
an experiment there and suddenly know how to make a round potholder?
And then you are at baskets? You enjoy scarfs? You try for a sock?
If you sew two potholders together you suddenly have a bag…
All of that would not have happened if you didn’t give your
potholders a serious chance in the first place.
It’s frustrating, but you never know what happens on the road
unless you walk it. Try it. You can walk away anytime, so there’s
nothing really to loose. And don’t get stuck walking in circles
on a piece of the path that you fancy right now.
Have fun on your journey!